Sunday, August 20, 2017

Where the Boys Are

Women often lament that there are not enough good men around, which begs the question: Where have the boys gone? In this post, we will delve into the matter why males have started giving up, dropping out, doing more poorly than they should academically and preferring video games to life.



This post is based on the Art of Manliness Podcast:

Podcast #326: Why Boys Are Struggling & What We Can Do To Help Them

While there’s been a big push in recent decades to help girls thrive in school and in the workplace, boys in America have quietly been struggling. For example, boys are more likely to have learning and discipline issues in school and are less likely to graduate high school than girls, more women are now attending college than men and are earning more bachelors and masters degrees than men, the incarceration rate for boys has increased in the past few decades, and suicide rates have increased among teenage boys. What’s more, teachers and therapists have reported that boys seem increasingly disengaged from school and life.




ground·break·ing
ˈɡroundˌbrākiNG/
adjective
  1. breaking new ground; innovative; pioneering.
    synonyms:innovativefreshunusualunprecedentedinventiveMore

Micheal Gurian has been in the forefront in the modern study of male development. His groundbreaking book, the Wonder of Boys was one the first to focus on this area of study.


In this insightful and practical book, Michael Gurian describes what boys need to become strong, responsible, sensitive men. Instead of encouraging us to stifle boys' natural propensities for competition and aggression, Gurian offers effective and practical guidelines for channeling them. He shows how the evils boys are susceptible to, including gang activity, sexual misconduct, and crime, become necessary outlets when positive role models and adult support are not available.

Most important, Gurian explains what a boy really needs--a primary and an extended family, relationships with mentors, and intense support form his school and community--and details how we can provide these things for the boys we love.



fol·low-up
ˈfälō ˌəp/
noun
  1. a continuation or repetition of something that has already been started or done, in particular.
    • an activity carried out as part of a study in order to monitor or further develop earlier work.

      "follow-up interviews"

Since its publication a couple of decades ago, the situation for boys has become increasingly dire and research into the subject has considerably advanced. Gurian's new book, Saving our

saving our sons a lot of new research politics - nothing is happening what we have to do to save our sons

Boys and their communities are challenged today in ways they have not been before. Dr. Michael Gurian has studied and served children and their families for thirty years. His The Wonder of Boys (1996), is credited with sparking the "boys’ movement." In Saving Our Sons, he features the latest research in male emotional intelligence, male motivation development, neurotoxicity and the male brain, and electronics and videogame use. Linking practical solutions with strategic new policies based on twenty years of field work through the Gurian Institute, Dr. Gurian provides a seven-stage model for the journey to manhood in the new millennium. Moving effortlessly between the practical and the political, Dr. Gurian also tackles social and cultural issues facing our sons. Two of the book’s chapters provide readers with successful ways to challenge governmental and academic institutions, as well as the media, to see boys fully and fairly. In its eight chapters, Saving Our Sons is a unique combination of powerful writing, new research, practical strategies, and passionate social advocacy that helps our nation act on behalf of boys and young men—one home, one school, and one community at a time.

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fall behind
phrasal verb of fall
  1. 1.
    fail to keep up with one's competitors.

Gurian posits that, with some exceptions on the high intelligence/testosterone scale, men all over the world are starting to fall behind. There are still the type of men who run corporations and governments and they are doing well. It is the men in the middle who are suffering.

There are many reasons for this. One of this is the rise of the knowledge economy and its disconnects with evolutionary mating patterns. It seems that, while men will date less intelligent women, women who now have more options economically, will focus on their careers rather than dating less intelligent men:

The Atlantic - Why Do Smart Men Date Less Intelligent Women?

In the "knowledge economy," Carney says, intelligent people, unlike less intelligent people, hava a "call option" on their relationships in that they can end them to focus on their careers. In a rational dating world, he continues, smart men discount smart women because of their call options. But smart women don't appear to be discounting smart men in the same way. 

es·tab·lish·ment
əˈstabliSHmənt/
noun
noun: the Establishment
  1. 3.
    a group in a society exercising power and influence over matters of policy or taste, and seen as resisting change.
    synonyms:the authorities, the powers that be, the system, the ruling class; More

In modern societies, the big three of academics, media and government tend to dictate what is prioritized. These groups are still stuck in the 1960's when women had legitimate grievances regarding discrimination. The academic world is still focused on these types of female issues and not male issues. Males issues do not generate the funding for research and funding that female issues do.

Worse, the government and media tend to take their lead from academics so male issues are largely ignored. Government funding instead goes towards incarcerating males. There is little general understanding just how dire the situation is for males.

Here is an alarming statistic:

Education vs. Incarceration

Nationally, the rate of states’ prison spending is increasing faster than education spending. Perhaps the most infamous example is California, which, since 1980, has decreased higher education spending by 13% while increasing spending on prisons and correctional programs by an astonishing 436%.

pa·tri·arch·y
ˈpātrēˌärkē/
noun
  1. a system of society or government in which the father or eldest male is head of the family and descent is traced through the male line.
    • a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it.
    • a society or community organized on patriarchal lines.
      plural noun: patriarchies

For the past 50 years, the West has been operating under the assumption that males are oppressors and that the system is a patriarchy, one that we need to be at war against. Gurian argues that this is a superficial argument, an argument not based one science; and that we now have the scientific data to refute this reasoning.

This argument that males are the oppressors, that the system is a patriarchy, and everything is stacked against women due to white male privilege is not useful. We have been operating under an assumption that is wrong and harmful to males and society in general.

cor·re·la·tion
ˌkôrəˈlāSH(ə)n/
noun
  1. a mutual relationship or connection between two or more things.

    "research showed a clear correlation between recession and levels of property crime"

    synonyms:connectionassociationlinktie-intie-uprelationrelationshipinterrelationshipinterdependenceinteractioninterconnectionMore
    • STATISTICS
      interdependence of variable quantities.
    • STATISTICS
      a quantity measuring the extent of interdependence of variable quantities.

In our society, we often blame the correlation not the cause. We blame things like male violence, toxic masculinity and patriarchy but these a correlations not causes. By blaming these things we are not dealing with the causes, like neurotoxins, lack of attachment, abuse. Nature based theory posits that we need we need to look at causes not social constructs. We need to look at what is going on at cellular level, in our brains. We are failing to solve problems because the way we are currently try to solve them is unnatural.

gen·der
ˈjendər/
noun
  1. 1.
    the state of being male or female (typically used with reference to social and cultural differences rather than biological ones).

    "traditional concepts of gender"
    synonyms:sex
    "variables included age, income, and gender"

a·mor·phous
əˈmôrfəs/
adjective
  1. without a clearly defined shape or form.
    "amorphous blue forms and straight black lines"
    synonyms:shapelessformless, structureless, indeterminateMore
    • vague; ill-organized; unclassifiable.
      "make explicit the amorphous statements"
    • (of a group of people or an organization) lacking a clear structure or focus.
      "an amorphous and leaderless legislature"

Sex is rooted in the brain. It is dictated by chromosomes and  happens en utero Sex is binary whereas gender is amorphous.

There are differences in the way in which the male and female brain work. For example, males use seven times more grey matter and females use 10 times more white matter for the same activity.

Intelligence In Men And Women Is A Gray And White Matter

The study shows women having more white matter and men more gray matter related to intellectual skill, revealing that no single neuroanatomical structure determines general intelligence and that different types of brain designs are capable of producing equivalent intellectual performance.

This, according to Rex Jung, a UNM neuropsychologist and co-author of the study, may help to explain why men tend to excel in tasks requiring more local processing (like mathematics), while women tend to excel at integrating and assimilating information from distributed gray-matter regions in the brain, such as required for language facility




The Emotional Lives of Boys

Brain scans also show that male emotional/impulse processing for words is not as quick with females.

the emotional life’s of boys works differently than girls in school, if we force boys to use words if they cannot process, we punish boys when they fidget or use physical displays and get punished the fail, tune out, drop out teachers do not get this training

Uncommon Knowledge - Men, women and emotions - or why he never tells you how he's feeling!

Armouring Up

y chromosome more fragile than x testosterone armors us up starts at a cellular level because the male emotional construction/selves fragile

every culture toughens guys up we misinterpret and tell guys not to develop emotional skills, to shut up, this is a large reason for the dominant gender paradigm male emotional life’s are fragile you see this in chromosomes and first years of life

trauma when males and females suffer trauma females develop better social emotional skills e.g. divorce is harder on males males more fragile compounding by father getting removed


Daily Mail - The end of men? Expert predicts males will be extinct in five million years... and the process has already started!

Professor Graves, of Canberra University, said: ‘The X chromosome is all alone in the male but in the female it has a friend, so it can swop bits and repair itself.

‘If the Y gets hit, it’s a downward spiral.’

Giving a public lecture, the professor said: ‘It is very bad news for all the men here.’
And there is more bad news.

In her talk at the Australian Academy of Science, the professor described the remaining genes on the Y chromosome as being mostly ‘junk’.

She said: ‘It’s a lovely example of what I call dumb design.

‘It’s an evolutionary accident.’


Not One Size Fits All

one sizes fits all approach does not work need to understand differences and use multiple strategies

one size fits all use words mono strategic approaches so do situations without fathers better to use physical, kinetic

zero tolerance punish boys particularly boys of color

Different Baselines

nurturing testosterone, oxytocin, hormonal, cellular, brain, bio female - direct nurturance male - aggression/challenge nurturance both types are useful both sexes use both but have different baselines

moms/female teachers come from point of view see danger/bullying/teasing when it does not exist stuff that deals with males, pecking orders as dangerous situations they would rather it be the other way we need to respect both ways

an·he·do·ni·a
ˌanhēˈdōnēə,-hi-/
noun
PSYCHIATRY
  1. inability to feel pleasure.


male anadonia under motivation, depressed males mildly depressed males, living in basements, playing video games, dropping out, getting c and d's despite being intelligent sx ano - not motivated to sx or procreate lethargic paralyzed guys use video games instead of life, p not sex between 10 20 million in the US not be able to procreate or, if do, father male privilege explanation does not explain this

Parents and Schools

what should parents look for in school have teachers been trained in how boys learn, differently have systems been altered to account for this if not chances are that your sons will be impacted

for most, schools are not a choice how do you get schools to change parent teams and sons in classrooms of 30 5 boys will have trouble 1 girl if your schools has data, you will know school has a problem takes a group of parent not one or schools will not pay attention

Kinesthetic learning (American English), kinaesthetic learning (British English), or tactile learning is a learning style in which learning takes place by the students carrying out physical activities, rather than listening to a lecture or watching demonstrations.

go from teaching just verbally to both need spatial, right side of brain, kinesthetic project based learning for extended time allows time for moving around visual graphing - more drawing, graphics story boards helps their writing writing to quadrants

Competition

competition in schools boys in particular most things taught are not relevant gives them a stake raises testosterone levels motivating

Gender Politics

college campus gender politics colleges do not teach this stuff colleges can see they are losing males 60/40 split men to not enroll when they do, they are not involved need to develop manhood studies need to reorient towards a balanced approach instead of dominant gender paradigm

bad for families bad for employment need to fight against old antiquated gender paradigm approach grassroots effort

example extreme views that are not accurate rape crisis hysteria based on bad data

need to get away from if females not succeeding then we need to crush males or what works for males need a more complex, balanced approach

Too Much Screen Time

stresses to male development too much tech screen time damages male development such as impulse control synapses will not form during development screens and even video games are passive fools brain into thinking it is accomplishing something

michael gurian dot com gurian institute dot com

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